I was still chuckling as I left the Red Cross blood drive today with
my two younger children in tow. As I'd gathered our coats, someone had
turned to me and said, "I hear you have four young children. Why do
you give blood?"
"Are you kidding?" I laughed. "When I donate, the
volunteers watch my children for me, they feed me, they tell me how
wonderful I am, and I get to put my feet up for twenty minutes. It's a
great deal."
Left unsaid was my other reason for giving, the reason which still
chills me when I allow myself to remember. It was eighteen months ago at
what was supposed to be the routine delivery of another healthy Cram
Baby. My obstetrician used to joke that his coffee was still hot after
he delivered my babies. But this baby was different. Just moments before
birth, something went terribly wrong: I suffered a rare amniotic
embolism which collapsed my blood's clotting system.
As the baby made her rapid appearance into the world, medical
personnel scurried around with worried looks and hushed voices. My
husband stood by helplessly as he heard, "Not much time...
extremely critical... prep more blood... can't promise we can save
her..." Grueling hours later, after emergency surgery and
transfusions, he hear the sweet news that I was one of the lucky ones,
one of the 14% who survive this complication. It had taken the speed and
skill of eight doctors and availability of 25 units of blood to save me.
A year and a day later I became eligible to donate blood again and I
could scarcely contain my excitement. My husband was baffled. How could
I explain it to him? Somewhere out there are 25 people who bared their
arms, flinched for a brief moment, then watched (or didn't watch) as a
pint of their life's blood was freely offered. All they received in
return were some kind words and a cup of coffee from Red Cross
volunteers.
Those 25 people did not donate because it was convenient. They had to
leave work early or juggle a carpool schedule or miss dinner that night.
It's not that they had nothing better to do. They donated blood because
they knew that their pint of blood could make a difference and maybe
even save a life.
Mine is the life they saved. You'd never know it if you saw me. I am
just another overwhelmed mother who looks healthy and exhausted, but
those 25 people helped to ensure that a baby will grow up knowing her
mother, that a young father could bring his wife home to grow old with
him. Somewhere out there today, in some hospital corridor, is another
terrified husband, or parent, or sister, or friend, desperately hoping
that his loved one survives and that loved one looks an awfully lot like
me.
So I gave blood today and my toddler and preschooler came to watch to
see if mama's blood is red, just like last time, or if this time it is
green. They got bandages on their arms to match mine, and stickers, and
a glimpse of the gift of life. We ate cookies and drank our milk and I
left with a little less blood and a much fuller heart. You see, I gave
blood today, and all I felt was good.